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Are you a very sensitive person? 4 advices to stop people from hurting you

Sensibility has a positive side, and a less positive side.

The main problem you may have if you’re a very sensitive person is relating to other people, who are not.

Because people who aren’t sensitive, can’t understand the degree of intensity with which you can experience an emotion or feeling.

Certainly, this sensibility may be a “good thing” and a “bad thing”.

When you feel pain, the pain is very strong, but when you feel love, it’s incredibly intense.

Sensibility allows you to submerge on both sides.

Contents

  • 1 Positive aspects of sensibility
  • 2 Protect your heart
    • 2.1 1. Protect yourself more when you fall in love
    • 2.2 2.     Set limits
    • 2.3 3.    Accept your sensibility
    • 2.4 4.     Find people like you
  • 3 3 Foolproof Steps to learn to Say No and Earn People's respect

Positive aspects of sensibility

If you are a very sensitive person,

  • You can feel what kind of person is before you

Sensibility is very related to intuition, due to this you can “feel sorry” or perceiving subtle things in other people. For example, if you can trust them or not, if they have good intentions, if they have a good heart, etc. This will help you choose better.

  • You can empathize with others right away

Empathy is the ability to put yourself in another person’s shoes and, if you’re a sensitive person, this will come to you easily. Empathy allows you to connect with the person at an emotional level, which makes them feel when they are around you.

  • You can feel the positive emotions intensely

 

Feeling intensely serves with all emotions. Love, happiness, enthusiasm, joy, positivity, devotion… you don’t feel a bit, you feel a lot.

  • You are capable of valuing the small things in life

Your sensibility allows you to value the beauty of a setting Sun, meeting with a friend, relaxing in a bath … you feel those small things so much that you can enjoy them every day.

Protect your heart

Based on my experience, I can say that sensitive people need to take care of themselves, to avoid suffering.

Because you can’t go through life with an overwhelmed heart, since there are people “out there” who don’t share your sensibility.

I propose bearing the following in mind:

1. Protect yourself more when you fall in love

When falling in love overwhelms you, you stop paying attention to your intuition.

Your sensibility is reporting things, but your falling in love prevents you from looking at them.

You idealize being in love, and your heart starts feeling a great love; your limits expand and, if you understand your sensibility, then, there is no problem.

The problem comes when the other person uses your sensibility against you, and accuses you of being too whiny, sensitive, hysterical or exaggerate.

Sensibility isn’t bad, it actually makes you a better person. So you need to stop al critiques to this aspect of your personality.

Take care when someone accuses you of being over-sensitive, because that may mean that you have a person before you who doesn’t even know what it means.

2.     Set limits

If you’re a sensitive person, you may have an enormous and kind heart.

This means that you’re a good person and that you always look for the good in other people.

But remember that the entire world isn’t like you.

I already know that you don’t want to hurt anybody.

I know that you can put yourself in other people’s shoes, especially if they are suffering.

But, if another person is hurting you with their comments or actions, you need to stop them.

You cannot allow them to do that just because that is who they are. That doesn’t mean they can treat you, or your mind badly, or disrespect or insult you… while you try to justify their behavior.

There is no possible justification for such behaviors.

Don’t forget it.

You have set limits and if you can’t, go away.

Because if you don’t, your heart will feel it intensely, and it may actually ruined it.

3.    Accept your sensibility

For a long time, I tried portraying an image that didn’t correspond with my personality. I was doing it to prevent people from hurting me. Because I also am a sensitive person.

“I” was trying “to “imitate” (because it didn’t come from me) other people’s behavior, who were less sensitive than I was.

And the only thing that it managed to do was hurting myself.

Because you can’t go oppose your own nature.

For example, there are some things that I cannot see because they affect me too much.

There are even topics I prefer not to talk about because it’s too painful to me.

My empathy and sensibility are too intense. And that is part of who I am.

Therefore, if you know what hurts you or the things that affect you, avoid them if you can!

Why should you expose yourself to suffering and to pain? Why?

It isn’t necessary.

If you accept and respect your own limits, you will teach others to accept you and respect you. And this is a great way of taking care of yourself.

4.     Find people like you

The best way of coexisting with your sensibility is finding people who are as sensitive as you.

Because they will understand you perfectly.

You won’t have to explain things constantly, because they will share your values.

And, even if they aren’t as sensitive as you,  the important thing is that they like and accept your sensibility, your friends need to know you are a sensitive person and that that’s a good thing.

Then, if any discussion or difference in points of view arises, the other person won’t use that aspect against you, but will bear it in mind.

 

 

Sensibility is a gift, so take care of it and give it the value it deserves.

Are you a sensitive person? Why not tell me about your experience? You can do it in the comments section.

If you liked this post and know someone who could use it, do not hesitate to share it.

 

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