10 Strategies to turn Ups and Downs to Inner Peace

Tired of emotional ups and downs? Tired of being at the top one day and at the bottom the next?

Achieving Inner Peace isn’t something that comes suddenly.

You have to work on it and practice a bit every day to achieve it.

An emotional up and down is a variation or a change in your emotions.

For example, when in a short period of time you go:

• from love to hate
• from joy to sadness
• from anger to despair
• from enthusiasm to frustration
• etc.

Living in a perpetual emotional roller coaster would destabilize anyone, so in this post, I tried to summarize what you can achieve on my online video course.

10 Strategies to achieve Inner Peace

Strategy 1: Do you know who you are and are your limits?

From the messages you received in your childhood, the environment you grew up in, the experiences you had and everything you learned, you created most of your mind maps which, if you haven’t checked them, they are probably still the same.

Therefore, knowing  yourself allows you to reconsider:

• your thoughts
• your feelings
• your actions
• your reactions

And consider whether you should continue on the same pattern or change it.

But to change something, first, you have to know what you want to change.

Therefore, the first step to achieve Inner Peace is to know yourself, with that I mean:

• Knowing what you like and dislike
• What your values are
• What you believe in and what is no longer useful to you to believe in
• Etc.

To allow yourself to decide your life and not let it just go by you.

Strategy 2: Who controls your life?

Based on the previous strategy, to attain inner peace you need to be able to identify and manage your emotions.

Identifying them implies giving them a name. It can be joy, sadness, fear, frustration, regret…but getting to the ground emotion is not always easy.

It’s important not to judge yourself.

Remember that any feeling you have is fine.

You just have to learn to listen because that emotion is telling you something.

Managing implies doing something about it. Sometimes you’ll be able to do something, but others you’ll have to accept that you can’t do anything to change it. But that acceptance is already helping to manage your emotions.

If you don’t identify and manage your emotions, they will take control of your life without you noticing it.

Strategy 3: Do you like to please others?

Human beings have the inherent need to be loved.

Consider that a baby without care and love wouldn’t survive.

But if you have lived in an environment in which the adults didn’t know how to love you or take care of you, it’s likely that, in order to gain their approval and recognition, you created strategies to please them, and thus gain their love.

There’s nothing wrong with this because the child is doing it to survive.

The problem is that as an adult, you maintain this behaviour.  You put other people’s wishes and needs before your own.

You have to learn to put yourself first, to love yourself, respect yourself, accept yourself… because that’s the only way in which others will treat you as you deserve.

Strategy 4: The company you keep says a lot about you

How are your friends? What kind of people do you spend time with? Do they usually criticize, complain or focus on everything that is negative?

If so, it’s time to clean up, because even though you don’t want to, if you spend too much time in this kind of toxic relationships, you’ll end up thinking and acting like them.

 

To achieve Inner Peace, begin by relating to happy people who are able to see the positive side of life.

Strategy 5: Do you know how to take care of yourself?

How is your inner dialogue?

You can have a positive, constructive and supportive inner dialogue.

Or you can have a mental tyrant who despises, criticizes and reminds you how bad you are at everything.

Even though you may not believe it, the mental tyrant has a positive function, which is to help you, but he or she does it with the wrong strategy.

Therefore it’s very important to connect with that innocent part of yourself or as some writers call it “the inner child“, so you can learn and maintain a constructive and nutritive inner dialogue.

Strategy 6: In your life, do you see sunshine or clouds?

The way you perceive things will lead to you seeing sunshine in life, learnings, and opportunities, or clouds, misfortune, and problems.

It all depends on the way you look at it.

But you can change the way in which you look at things and value your experiences as opportunities for learning something.

You can achieve inner peace by changing the way you perceive life.

Strategy 7: Do you respect yourself?

Respecting yourself means valuing what you think, feel and do.

Value it because it’s you who’s acting or because it’s you who are defending your opinions.

You can accept other people’s point of view or way of acting, even if you don’t agree, while still respecting your own thoughts and actions, even if they’re different.

Respecting also requires setting limits to those who don’t respect you, either, by stopping them or staying away from them.

Strategy 8: Do you care about what you say and how you say it?

Words create reality.

You have to be very careful with what you say and how you say it because normally you believe everything you tell yourself, even if it’s not entirely true.

When you talk, talk about yourself, how do you feel, what happens to you, I mean, talk in the first person, it’ll help you take responsibility for your own life.

And above all, CHOOSE a positive and constructive way to explain your life to yourself and to others.

That way, it’ll be easier for you to integrate and assimilate your experiences.

Strategy 9: Can you imagine a better future?

If you are able to create it in your mind, you’ll be able to create it in your life.

Dreams arise from a desire, from something you’d like to achieve.

Imagining what you want will give you a clear objective.

And your actions will help you to achieve it.

Strategy 10: Practice connecting with your BEING

The psychologist Antonio Blay Fontcuberta says that we are a BEING of energy, love, and consciousness.

Meditation is a good tool to reach your own presence and you’ll find the direct path to achieve Inner Peace by connecting with your Presence.

 

If you want to delve deeper into each of these strategies, you can register to do my online course From Emotional Ups and Downs to Inner Tranquility.