Are you tired of not moving towards your objectives?
Have you stopped to reflect on what ISN’T working?
In today’s article I’d like to explain some reasons why you may be blocked, to then find some solutions to overcome these blockages.
There are as many blockages as people, so you need to assess which one is yours.
However, I’ll try to show you some general ones:
A masked emotion
I have a customer who for several sessions told me that she wanted to move to the city where her parents live, and which is several hours away from where she currently lives.
Session after session, I couldn’t get her to take a single step to move towards her goal.
Finally, after investigating her emotions, she explained that her biggest fear was that her partner wouldn’t want to leave with her and they’d have to break up.
Planning to move was useless if her emotions were paralyzing her.
It isn’t always easy to identify a fear, so you’ll need to take some time to listen to your emotions.
What emotion lies behind the action you can’t take?
It could be fear, but also a rejection towards a certain action or the consequences of that action.
There are all kinds of excuses.
Your mind can give you a rational justification and explain the reasons why you can’t move towards your goals.
The problem is that normally, you believe it.
It may say “it isn’t the time” and you won’t delve any further to figure out why it isn’t.
You may tell yourself “you are too young or old” and the right age never seems to come.
But the more excuses you set upon yourself, the more you block yourself.
The road, is again, to listen to yourself and listen to what you are telling yourself.
If you’re one of those people who sets themselves huge goals, plans every task and usually carries them out, you may be demanding so much from yourself, that in the end, you’re exhausted.
If you have to lose your health to achieve your goals, it isn’t worth it.
Have you included time to “recharge” in your plan?
Here’s a story by Jorge Bucay in which he explains the importance of resting.
This is mine. You can’t imagine how much my mind scatters.
And it’s a huge problem, because I start something, continue with another and after 2 hours I am halfway through five.
In the end, I don’t get anywhere.
The way in which I solve this (or try to, I have to confess that I don’t always manage it) is by choosing ONE SINGLE THING.
To do it, I evaluate what I’ve chosen based on importance and priority, and then discard the rest.
For example, I have a thousand things to do in my blog. I can start uploading an image, then I remember that I haven’t checked my email, I get a whatsapp message and finally I get up to eat because I’m hungry.
If it does, they you already know that email or phone or images or nothing is done, because your mine scatters.
How do you organize yourself?
Do you have a specific way to plan?
Imagining and fantasizing is necessary, because imagination allows you to create a future scenario in which you want to be.
It’s important to think about every little detail of what you want, and recreate yourself in that image.
It’s also necessary to connect with the emotion that you’ll feel when you achieve your goal.
Once you know what you want and how you want it, you need to move towards your goals and start planning and acting.
Because you can’t expect things to happen if you don’t make them happen.
5 steps to move towards your goals
There’s no use in trying if you’re not moving forward.
First you’ll need to stop and assess what’s behind, what’s holding you back.
1. Listen to your emotions
Emotions are very important and you need to give them the space and place they deserve.
You can’t move towards your goals if you ignore them.
Because they will stop you.
So, choose an afternoon or a day or a weekend and allow yourself to feel.
- What are you feeling that isn’t letting you move forward?
- Do you have a specific fear?
- What do you need emotionally to keep moving?
2. Analyze your excuses
Excuses can also mask fears, but they do so through thoughts.
- What are the most common ones?
- A lack of money or time?
- Not having the necessary knowledge?
Turn all those excuses around, write them on a sheet and then try to find a solution.
You don’t have enough money? How much do you need? Could you make a monthly budget for what you want?
Stop and listen to all your excuses because, in them, you may find the key to your blockages.
3. Take a break
Forget about your goal for several days.
Enjoy other things.
It’s necessary and I’d dare to say, mandatory.
Otherwise, you’ll reach your goal, if you do, completely exhausted and,
What good is it to achieve a goal if you can’t enjoy it?
Tell me the day/s, place, and how you’ll give yourself that rest. You can write it in the comments section, as a commitment to you and me.
You deserve it.
You can’t do EVERYTHING.
You already know that the day only has 24 hours.
So, you need to prioritize.
You can choose what to do TODAY, or this week or this month.
You can also choose to focus on the main task and not start another until you finish the one you chose.
But you have to choose.
Review everything you need to do and then choose 1 thing.
5. Plan and act
It isn’t a matter of planning and planning and in the end, after so much planning, of doing nothing.
It’s about planning a little, 4 or 5 things to move towards your goals and then, act.
One of the exercises that some authors tend to recommend is:
Write 3 things you can do in the next half hour and do them.
This will force you to divide the big task into small, manageable steps.
What are the three things you can do today?
I hope that reflecting on these aspects can help you move towards what you want.
I invite you to tell me about your blockages and progress in the comments.