Let yourself be held
You don’t have to carry everything on your own.
There are moments when asking for help can feel like a defeat.
As if it were shameful not to be able to hold your world together.
You learned that being strong means enduring.
That growing up means not asking for help.
And that needing something is a weakness to be avoided.
But the truth is very different.
Receiving help is an act of humility.
And of courage, too.
Because it takes courage to stop and say “I can’t do this anymore.”
And that’s perfectly okay.
Because it opens the door to letting yourself be cared for.
You don’t have to prove that you can handle everything.
You’re not worth any less for feeling confused or tired.
And sometimes, the bravest thing is to let go of the pressure you put on yourself and let yourself be held.
Because letting yourself be helped doesn’t make you small.
It makes you human.
And it allows you to accept that you, too, deserve rest, support, guidance and love.
That’s what I’m inviting you to do.
To seek professional help to take care of yourself and find your balance.
You don’t need to be in a really bad place.
It’s enough to want to change something in your life.
This is what can begin to change in you through a psychotherapy process with me:
- Trusting your own judgment. Giving your opinion at work or with your family without spending hours going over what you said.
- Being your own ally, so that when something doesn’t go as you expected, you treat yourself with compassion instead of punishing yourself and demanding more and more of yourself.
- Feeling that what you do is valuable, without needing others to confirm it all the time.
- Knowing when to speed up, when to hit the brakes and when to give yourself a break during your day.
I like to go deep in my sessions, which is why I often work with beliefs.
Some of your beliefs weren’t even chosen by you.
Some came from the love of those who cared for you and their wish to protect you.
Others were formed through intense emotional experiences or a big scare.
And others you “absorbed” from your surroundings: from the gestures you saw in your family, from the emotions in the air at home, or even from the silences that hurt more than words.
They may have formed in an instant.
Or through repetition over many years.
Beliefs usually take root because, as children, we don’t understand what’s really happening and can’t tell the difference between what depends on us and what doesn’t.
But not all limiting beliefs are created in childhood.
Others arise in adolescence or adulthood, from misunderstanding what love means in relationships or from traumatic experiences.
The problem
Is that some of those beliefs became unquestionable truths or unconscious patterns for you.
And today they still influence your life and your decisions without you even realizing it.
Let me give you an analogy:
If your life were a car, your beliefs would be at the wheel.
And you’d be in the passenger seat.
It can also change the way you take care of yourself and relate to others, as you learn to:
- Choose what you want, whether it’s a plan, a job or a change, without waiting for everyone to agree.
- Set boundaries with kindness and respect. Say no without giving a thousand explanations, and without feeling that it means you love anyone less.
- Accept a compliment with a simple “thank you,” without playing it down or justifying yourself.
- Set aside time for yourself (an afternoon, a walk or an hour of doing nothing) without feeling guilty. Or in spite of the guilt.
- Surround yourself with relationships where you give and also receive, without having to earn affection by giving more and more.
You don’t need to think something negative for a belief to take effect.
A belief can run on autopilot, like a program.
And influence:
- How you feel
- The decisions you make
- The way you see love
- The way you set boundaries
- How much or how little you’re able to trust… and receive.
And that’s because, to your subconscious mind, your safety comes first.
Its job is to keep you safe.
And if something worked in the past (even as a survival mechanism), it will keep using it in the present…
Even if it no longer protects you.
Even if that strategy no longer makes sense.
Even if it holds you back.
Even if it hurts.
You can’t change what happened.
But you can change your future through what you do in the present.
That’s why, in my psychotherapy sessions, I support you in identifying and working on the beliefs and your thoughts that may keep you stuck in a particular behavior.
And in finding resources to relate to yourself in a more loving way and give yourself permission to live something different.
To get there, I don’t apply the same technique to everyone. I adapt to you combining different approaches, such as Gestalt therapy, EMDR, mindfulness, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, therapeutic theater and Brief Strategic Therapy.
I’m Miriam Esquivel, a psychologist. I’ve been supporting people for more than 20 years and have done over 5,000 sessions in four languages: Spanish, Catalan, English and Swedish.
I know change is possible because I’ve lived it myself.
And let me tell you what else can change on the inside:
- Being able to look at your past without the wound stinging the way it used to. Recognizing your scar and keeping what you learned, so you can live your present with more freedom.
- Truly being where you are. Coming back to your breath, without being caught up in the past or worried about the future.
- Making peace with your body. Listening to it before it has to scream, and giving it space so you can respect it and care for it.
- Letting your head and your heart stop fighting and start working together. Being able to imagine the change you want and knowing what steps to take to get there.
A psychotherapy process can free you from the weight of that backpack that isn’t yours and that you’ve been carrying for years.
It gives you the freedom to draw the next step on your path.
It gives you permission to rest when life throws too many challenges at you.
It invites you to give yourself the space and time to make those important decisions that will lead you to the life you want.
It helps you breathe differently.
Move differently.
In short: come back to yourself.
Are you ready to listen to your own voice again?
That voice that no longer needs to push itself to the limit to feel worthy.
That doesn’t need to shout to be heard.
That feels proud and enough.
That doesn’t punish itself for what it feels.
And that can embrace itself even in its worst moments.
It’s not that a psychotherapy process will make your life perfect.
Or that you’ll never have fears or difficulties again.
What you can learn is to listen to your emotions, including your fear, without letting them always decide for you.
Because when you change the way you see yourself, you change the way you live.
If you feel it’s time to let yourself be supported, you can start here.
You can start in three ways:
Single 1-hour session – 90€
A space to look at what’s worrying you from a different perspective and explore what first step you can take.
It’s a good way to start if you want to see how it feels to work with me.
3-session pack (1h each) – 255€
(85€ per session)
More space to understand what’s happening to you, clarify what you want to change and start practicing resources that help you in your daily life.
5-session pack (1h each) – 400€
(80€ per session)
More continuity to go deeper into the beliefs and patterns that make it hard for you to move forward, work with your emotions and review together how you’re bringing what you’ve learned into your life.
This is the option I recommend if you want to go through a process.
Whenever you want to start, book your appointment here:
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens in a psychotherapy session? Do I need to prepare anything?
You don’t need to prepare anything or know where to start. You tell me what’s on your mind, and I’ll ask you questions to better understand your situation.
Together, we’ll clarify what you need and what you’d like to change. Depending on what comes up, I’ll suggest exercises to work with your emotions, your thoughts or your beliefs.
I’ll also suggest simple exercises so you can bring what we work on in session into your everyday life.
How often are the sessions held?
Sessions can be held weekly, every two weeks or monthly.
We’ll agree on this based on what you need and what fits best into your daily life.
Are the sessions online or can they also be in person? Is the price the same?
I generally work online. Sometimes we can also meet in person in Barcelona or Stockholm, depending on availability. The price of the session is the same either way.
What do I need for an online session?
A computer, phone or tablet with an internet connection, and a quiet place where you can talk in private.
I usually use Google Meet. I’ll email you the link a few minutes before our scheduled time. If you have any trouble connecting, we’ll stay in touch by WhatsApp or text message.
I’ve already tried other therapies and they didn’t work for me. How do I know if working with you can help me?
I understand that if you’ve already tried other therapies and didn’t find what you needed, it may be hard to trust again.
I can’t promise you a specific result. What I can offer you is my experience, my listening and work tailored to what you need. We can explore what was missing in those other processes and what you’re looking for now.
We’ll work together, and what you practice between sessions will also be part of the process.
If you’re unsure, you can start with one session and then decide whether you’d like to continue working with me.
Are the packs paid in one go?
Yes, packs are paid in a single payment. The 3-session pack costs 255€ and the 5-session pack costs 400€. That makes the price per session 85€ and 80€ respectively, compared to 90€ for a single session.
How long do I have to use the sessions in my pack?
You have one year from the date of purchase to use the sessions in your pack.
If something unexpected comes up that prevents you from using them, write to me and we’ll review your situation in line with the terms of the service.
Do I have to buy a pack to get started?
No. You can start with a single session and then decide whether you’d like to continue. You don’t need to commit to several sessions before seeing how we work together.
What can change in me through a psychotherapy process?
Most importantly, you’ll have options.
You’ll be able to learn to use the tools we work on so that fear doesn’t always decide for you, to question the thoughts that make you so hard on yourself, and to look at yourself with more kindness.
Over time, you can find more calm to face what’s happening to you and more freedom to choose how to respond.
I remind you of the three options:
Single 1h session: 90€
To explore a new perspective on what’s worrying you and a first step you can take.
3-session pack: 255€
To clarify what you want to change and start practicing resources in your daily life.
5-session pack: 400€
To keep working on your beliefs, your emotions and your patterns, and review how you’re progressing.
This is what some people who’ve worked with me have said
She was my “traveling companion”, yes, she accompanied me and watched over me until I felt that I was ready to continue on my own.
And so I began to make decisions that I would’ve never considered had it not been for therapy.”
I’m very grateful, because I’ve been able to take steps and grow as a person.”
For me, she has been a companion on this journey, she’s made me ask myself what is really worth worrying about, reflect, channel my emotions and dedicate my energy to what is truly necessary.”