Do you feel stuck because your indecision doesn’t let you to advance?
There are moments in life when doubts assail you and it seems impossible to overcome indecision.
In this post I want to offer six strategies to help you overcome those moments of indecision in a simpler way, without staying stick in your doubts.
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6 ways to overcome indecision
Being indecisive isn’t bad, it’s pretty normal when facing life’s situations, but when indecision keeps you locked in a place where you don’t like, it’s time to think about what’s happening.
1. Allow yourself to doubt, for a while
You need to make a decision if you want to continue moving forward, but you don’t need to get force and push yourself to make that decision RIGHT NOW.
You can accept or decide that “right now”, your decision is to “not decide”.
You can give yourself some time to be confused, while you evaluate different alternatives.
This will instantly relaxes you, because you’re not pressuring yourself to make a decision right away, you are giving yourself time to assess the pros and cons of every situation that you need to consider.
2. Ask to yourself important and intelligent questions
Questions that may help you, not question that can confuse you more.
You have to ask to yourself questions that make you connect with your emotional part, because doubt is very mental and to overcome indecision, you should consider your heart.
When I say smart, I mean that there are questions that are impossible to answer, because we cannot see or predict the future.
For example: If I do “this thing”, will it happen “this other”?
Can you really answer this question?
I don’t think so.
Because you can’t know it.
But yes, you can ask yourself:
If “this thing”happens, how am I going to manage it? What am I going to do? How can I control it?
These types of questions help you to be prepared for the possible consequences, and give you resources and strategies to confront your decision.
3. You have the right to go wrong
You’re human, if you are wrong nothing happens.
Sometimes it’s impossible to know whether something you’ve decided, will take you to the place you had imagined.
It can carry you to another place, even better.
But it could also carry you to an unwanted place, then, you’ll have to take another decision.
If you accept that you can go wrong, you remove the pressure off taking the “right” decision.
In fact, I could ask you:
Do you think that there is a right decision and antoher wrong one?
Because it depends from where you look at it, everything can be right or wrong.
The important thing is that you feel good with what you decide.
4. Remember that you can always rectify
This is very important.
Overcome indecision doesn’t mean that, from the outset, you have to be very clear about what you have to do, where to go and how to get it.
You can take a small decision or make a small movement, and give yourself some time to see whether that is what you want and how do you feel about it.
If you’re feeling good, you can follow in the same direction, but in case not, you’ll have to rectify.
In fact, many times we reach our goal, from rectifications that we are doing.
If on this way you don’t like or you don’t feel well, then just change it.
Both if this first step is successful or wrong, the important thing is that you are moving.
So don’t get overwhelmed because you can always rectify.
5. Assume the consequences
You have to know clearly what are the consequences of your decisions.
Because you and only you, are going to have to live the consequences.
Well, maybe your decision affects other people, then you have to know, what are the effects of your decision.
And find ways to manage those.
For example, imagine that you have a proposal to be promoted at work, but you have to go to live in another country.
If you accept it, you should talk to your family and manage all that implies for all the emigration to another country.
And you have to consider those effects.
Because if you don’t value those effects and you don’t keep that in mind, even having made the right decision, the effects that your decision cause in others, may end up cancelling your success.
Following the example above, you would have to give up to your promotion for having failed in the management of everything involving your decision.
So you have to be prepared to assume the consequences.
And to have enough resources to bear those.
6. Give yourself time to live the changes caused by your decision
Sometimes, after a decision or a particular change, things get worse at first, t0 improve later.
It’s like when you let someone to assume what is his or her responsibility, but until now, you had assumed as your responsability.
At first, the person may be angry, the situation my become tense and even to have discussions.
A Balance is broken and has to find a new one.
And this will need some time.
Gradually, everything will go back to its place.
The person will take his or her responsibility, and you’ll feel happy to have made the right decision.
But it was necessary to pass this “certain time” in which things have faltered.
If during that time, you go back to do the same, i.es, you go back to take the responsibility for something that’s not yours, it’s like you take a step back.
You need to be prepared to accept uncertainly and know what resources you can use to “stand” that period of time, until things normalize.
Because instability is part of the process.
It doesn’t mean you made the wrong decision and you need to rectify immediately.
Give yourself some time
And give it time too, while everything finds a new balance.
Do you agree?
I hope these strategies helped you overcome indecision and take a step forward towards whatever you want.
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