To be on a diet has become an obsession.
And the reasons that lead you to it can be very different, but mainly we diet to lose weight.
Influenced by both media blitz where beauty exalts the wombs flat, slender legs and an iota of fat …
When we look at these images, which are everywhere, and then compare them with our normal bodies, with some other michelín in our belly, cellulite …
We think that we who have to change and we must begin immediately to dieting.
The goal: get a perfect body!
And I ask myself…
Who says it has to have a perfect body?
Who is behind this lie?
We forget, and to me the first, we are bombarded by images that try to sell us a feeling: being beautiful, desirable, pleasant …
But do you think is necessary to take these measures or those bodies to be nice, desired or nice?
I imagine that all will agree on a “no.”
And though our mind knows not, something inside says:
“yes, but … if I do not have that body, might not get”
Start self-deception and the fight
So, we are deluding ourselves and decided that:
“morning, we started the diet”
And this happens because there is an internal struggle:
A part of us says (more or less):
“diet has to do to have a nice, sexy body and so, you’ll feel good because you will like, will be required and everyone will want to be with you …”
And the other (rightly), he complains and says something like:
“and why I have to diet? Well, I’m fine as I am !, To me, I like and if you do not like others, then I’m sorry. I do not have to deprive myself of something I like to be “sexy”. Well, I will not be attractive, I do not care!”
Of course, this “internal dialogue” is not always as explicit as what I write here.
Sometimes, it all happens without us noticing, and the consequence is that the “morning”, never comes.
The first thing to do is to get an internal agreement.
There is no point that some want to do something if the other does not want, because you will find the form of boycott.
So look for that inner pact, something that both sides feel they gain something in return, an agreement in which both parties strive for the same goal.
To do this, I suggest a simple exercise :
Take 2 pens 2 colors, and decides what color will represent each party. And then try to write the thoughts of both, respecting a color for each part.
You can divide as follows:
Blue pen : you want a diet
Red pen: you don’t want a diet
You have to “speak” (in this case, through writing) between them, to communicate and understand the reasons for each position and if you get to the understanding of each party, it will be easier to get an agreement.
Changing habits involves many things, so I’ll leave some suggestions that you can apply to get the best results with respect to your goal:
1. Change the “diet” by “changing habits.”
The mere thought that I have to limit my food or eating certain things, creates a lot of tension. But if you are thinking of changing your eating habits, things change and tension disappears.
This is the main agreement you have to get: change habits. And if your two sides share the common goal, I assure you it will be much easier to achieve.
2. The more you forbid you anything, more compelling becomes
This is important to remember. If you forbid eating chocolate because “no go” in the diet, you can not resist, and end up ruining your project.
3. Give yourself small pleasures
And this includes both food and others. Take a bath with salts, get a massage, take something in a nice place, take a walk, eat something that you really like but do it in small quantities, for example, a piece of chocolate or chocolate…
4. Change the TV for a walk
It is something that does not require much effort, and your body and your mind will thank you. 20 minutes is enough to put your body working.
5. Enter some exercise in your life, but something you like
The important thing to introduce exercise into your life is to keep it and the only way to keep something, that’s when you enjoy it.
If you do not like running, you will run the first day and maybe the first week, but always find a good excuse not to leave.
However, if you like walking, you can take long walks 1h and plan different routes.
Choose something you like, you enjoy it. That’s the important thing.
You can be walking, swimming, dancing, yoga, martial arts, running, skating, fencing, aqua-gym … anything in your body has to get off the couch and active.
When you change your habits, you’re putting yourself and your health first, eat well to be healthy, you exercise to relax your body and this approach is different from dieting, and it is much easier to carry out.
And, most importantly, easier to maintain over time.
If you do, you get harmony between your parts.
And, step by step, without effort, you will enjoy a healthier body.
And this is an act of love you can do for yourself.
Take care of yourself.
Not to get a perfect body, but to feel good about yourself.
And better enjoy your day.
Your body will thank you, giving you health and preventing disease.
Do you still have any doubt between a diet or change habits?
If you’re already in the process of changing habits, tell us how you’re getting, what things work, and what difficulties you find, as your experience can help us all.
Together, it is easier.