Do you know yourself? Do you know who you are and what limits you? Do you know your inner child?
In Louise Hay ‘s book You Can Heal Your Life, you’ll find an answer to all these questions.
I’d say that this is the first important book that fell on my lap, and led to a huge change in my life.
When this book fell on my lap, I was feeling quite lost and unhappy.
The amount of thoughts you can have per day is huge.
Although you may not be aware of most of them.
However, what you think affects you, even if you don’t notice it.
According to L. Hay, most of the problems we have depend on the way we think.
So if you want to change your life, your relationships or even yourself, you’re going to have to change the way you think.
Generally, people tend to think negatively. Therefore, changing this habit and thinking more positively, will require a lot of effort form your part.
If your thoughts tell you that everything is white or black, how are going to see your life?
Well, white or black.
But when you become aware of how your thoughts affect you, you get the chance to change them.
Changing a habit isn’t easy, that’s why L.Hay offers you a series of “positive phrases” so you can start practicing a new way of thinking.
The critique of positive thinking
I read this book when I was 19 years old, and it’s true that “positive thinking” authors have been criticized in the sense that, not just because you think “I have a wonderful life“, it’ll immediately happen.
Or, not just because you think and repeat 50 times, “I feel sure of myself“, you’ll achieve it instantly.
From my point of view, positive thinking gives you a thought “alternative”, something to focus on.
For example, if you always think you’re a mess…
Why don’t you start thinking you’re charming?
What’s stopping you?
It’s simply changing a destructive thought for a constructive one.
In my professional practice I meet people who have a very negative perspective of themselves.
And my role is to help them change the misperception they have of themselves.
Getting you to focus on the positive is already a big step, and if for that, positive thoughts help, then why not use them?
It’s just one more tool.
Positive psychology works with positive emotions to increase a person’s well-being and happiness.
And it’s not only based on positive thinking, but on many other techniques.
The inner child
One of the most important things that I discovered with the book You Can heal your life, was meeting “my inner child”.
We all have a vulnerable, naive, emotional, tender and needy side.
It’s our most primitive or pleasure-seeking part, but it’s a part we need to take into account.
And the idea of “inner child” helps this process.
If you consider that the essence of when you were a girl lies within you, that child still lives within you, then it’ll be easier to understand that, the adult you are today, has to take care of that child’s needs.
If you can regain contact with your inner child, I can assure, you’ll never feel alone again.
You’ll learn to be with yourself, to take care of yourself, to pamper yourself and to satisfy your deepest needs.
Changing your attitude towards the past
Louise Hay says you can’t feel sorry for what happened in the past, because it keeps you chained to it.
You can’t change what happened, but you can change the way you think and your attitude towards it.
This change involves understanding the situation and forgiving yourself.
Only the present exists, and it’s now that you have the power to change things.
You need to notice what you think, what you say, because the ideas you have today will create your tomorrow.
Another important thing you’ll find in the books is the importance of being thankful.
Being thankful is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself to improve your emotional state.
In our current society, it seems that if you don’t HAVE, you don’t EXIST.
But “having” focuses only and exclusively on the consumption of material goods.
And due to the media bombardment, you forget to value all the things you have in your life and which are free.
- two arms, two legs, two eyes, two ears…
- a stomach that digests everything we eat,
- intestines that absorb what the body needs to be nourished, and discard the rest,
- a sunset,
- a person who loves you,
- the ability to imagine, to feel, etc.
So stop reading this post for a moment and say, mentally, all the things you’re thankful for in life.
And as a bonus, appreciate what you want in the future, as if you already had it.
How do you feel?
Can you notice your positive vibrations increase?
Usually they do. So I advise you to repeat this exercise every day.
It’ll help you to focus on everything you DO have.
If you want to read it, here’s the Amazon link (I’m an affiliate)
Remember, if one day you feel a little morally “low” or a bit sad, get any of this author’s books and read it.
I can assure you, it’ll lift your spirits.
I’m sure you also have a book that has marked a before and after in your life, so I encourage you to share it and explain your experience in the comments.