The less you listen to yourself, the more you need external validation.
And then, you become a people pleaser.
We’ve all been there.
Looking outside for what we don’t know how to give ourselves.
Were you ever taught to value, validate, and understand yourself?
Not by my parents or role models.
Not at school.
Not by my friends.
Not by my partners.
No one.
Do you know why?
Because they don’t know how to do it either.
That’s why I love Goal Reviews.
Because they give you the perfect excuse to stop, look inside yourself, and see what’s really going on in there.
When you are able to:
see yourself,
listen to yourself,
validate yourself,
value yourself, and
understand yourself,
you can offer the same to your relationships.
Then, you stop worrying about pleasing others because you no longer need to.
You stop caring so much about what others think of you because your focus is on yourself, not on the outside.
And it’s from that inner connection
that you blossom and feel at peace,
because you no longer have to be what others want you to be,
but instead, you give yourself permission to be YOU.
Do you know what happens when you don’t listen to yourself, reflect, or validate yourself?
I’ll tell you in a moment, but first, let me share what used to happen to me when I didn’t listen to myself.
Back in high school, I had a group of friends I would go out with every weekend.
We were teenagers, and we loved going out and dancing.
As the years passed, my weekend preferences changed.
However, my friends still wanted to go out at night and hit the clubs.
They were my lifelong friends… how could I not go out with them?
What would they think of me? Had I become boring?
So I “forced” myself to go out because I didn’t want to disappoint them…
And I didn’t realize that the one I was really disappointing was myself—by not listening to what I truly wanted.
The breaking point of this story was my birthday (I think I was around 35 years old), and I completely adapted to what my friends wanted.
I celebrated my birthday party at one of their houses… because it was closer for them than mine.
(And don’t even get me started on how many car trips it took to bring all the food and drinks I had prepared).
And then, the inevitable happened.
I pulled out a board game I was really excited to play, and…
do you know what they said?
That they wanted to go out partying!
All those years of adapting to them, pleasing them, and the one day that was important to me, the day I asked for something I wanted…
…was I supposed to keep adapting?
That’s when I saw it clearly.
I packed my things and left that house.
I left the WhatsApp group of my “friends.”
And I promised myself that, from that moment on, I would listen to myself.
The consequences of not listening to yourself are many:
-You put yourself and your needs last.
-You become a people pleaser, always accommodating what others want or need.
-You are always available for others.
And without realizing it, you keep seeking their validation through these behaviors.
The problem is that, since you don’t validate yourself, you surround yourself with people who don’t validate you either.
And that leads to anxiety, sadness, stress… and shallow relationships without deep connection.
And who am I to tell you this?
I’ve been a psychologist for over 18 years, with more than 4,500 individual therapy sessions and over 300 group sessions.
I see this issue in therapy over and over again.
I’d like to invite you to this workshop
In this workshop you’ll discover:
- The main mistake you make and the reason you feel unappreciated.
By changing this, you will be able to feel valuable and proud of yourself every day…
- How to validate your emotions and those of the other person, to build deep communication and connection with yourself and others.
- The real reason why people overcome difficult situations (and no, it’s not time).
When you understand this, you don’t just heal—you grow and make better decisions in the future, avoiding past mistakes.
- Everything you need to create a safe space in your conversations—one that strengthens trust and mutual respect.
What’s included in the workshop?
- 2 Hours of Live Guided Reflection – A real-time workshop where you’ll practice active listening and emotional validation. We will alternate between introspective exercises and pair or group dynamics to help you reconnect with yourself and others.
- Printable Workbook – An exclusive workbook with questions and exercises designed to help you deepen and structure your reflection clearly and effectively.
- Ongoing Email Support – For the following month, you can reach out to me directly via email with any questions or concerns about what we covered in the workshop.
Plus, you’ll get these two Extra Bonuses:
- A quick monthly Reflection Guide – A A short guide with brief questions to continuously review your progress and ensure that you keep prioritizing yourself month after month.
- A Guided meditation – A meditation designed to help you connect with the emotion that will guide you toward your goal.
Upcoming dates for the Online Workshop
To be confirm.
Price: €50
(Secure payment by credit card)
But maybe you’re thinking…
“I don’t have time to stop and reflect.”
The less time you have for reflection, the more you need it.
If you don’t stop, you don’t listen to yourself.
If you don’t listen to yourself, you keep putting everything and everyone else first.
And if you keep doing that year after year, you start to lose the spark of life.
Of your life.
Seriously, if you feel like you don’t have time, that’s exactly why you need this workshop.
How will a workshop help me if I already know how to listen to myself?
I know you’ve reflected on your own before, but what I’m offering in this workshop is a chance to take it one step further.
When we are alone with our thoughts, it’s easy to get stuck in the same patterns.
In this workshop, I’ll teach you not just how to listen to yourself, but also how to value and validate yourself.
Plus, being in a group gives you the opportunity to hear similar experiences or different perspectives that can offer new insights and enrich your process.
Is it worth the investment?
When you give yourself space to listen and reflect, you get to know yourself better.
Your own listening validates and values you.
And when you’re able to validate yourself, you can show up as your true self.
That authenticity allows you to connect with others on a deeper level.
You can see and be seen.
You can listen and be heard.
Things that, generally, aren’t so easy to find.
For me, from the heart, yes—giving yourself this space is absolutely worth it.
But only you can decide if now is the time to dedicate time to yourself or to keep going as always.
The choice is yours.
Do you have any questions?
Yes! The workshop is designed to guide you through reflection, even if you haven’t previously reviewed your goals. It will help you identify achievements, lessons learned, and areas for improvement in a structured way.
At the same time, you’ll practice active listening, validation, and appreciation—both for yourself and others
You’ll need a pen to write.
For the online workshop, in addition to a stable internet connection, you’ll need a quiet space where you can write and reflect without interruptions.
Participation in group dynamics is voluntary, and everyone’s privacy is respected. You don’t have to share anything you don’t want to. However, one of the key benefits of doing this workshop in a group is the opportunity to share and experience empathic communication in a respectful and supportive space.
I will running this workshop regularly, so if you can’t make it due to unforeseen circumstances, you can join the next session.
At times, I will also be offering it in person in Barcelona or Stockholm, so you might have the option to attend a live session instead of online.
No, this is a practical workshop with very little theory. Most of the time will be spent on self-reflection and participating in pair or group dynamics.
Yes, the workshop is live, so you’ll be able to ask all your questions in real time. Additionally, if you have any further questions about the content during the following month, you can contact me via email.
In Summary:
This Two-Hour Workshop Is YOUR Moment to Pause, Listen to Yourself, and Redirect Your Energy Toward What Truly Matters.
For only €50, you’ll get:
- 2 hours of guided and structured introspection in an online format
- Practical exercises
- Pair and group dynamics in a space of trust and empathy
- Communication strategies to appreciate and validate emotions
- Support during the workshop and for one month afterward
Plus, Two Extra Bonuses:
– A Quick Monthly Reflection Guide (PDF)
– A Guided Meditation to Connect with the Emotion That Will Lead You to Your Goal
Take this time to listen to yourself, prioritize yourself, and define what you truly want moving forward.