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Why insist on “more of the same” using a strategy that does not work?

How many times have you told yourself?

“Again the same thing happened to me”

“I returned to stumble over the same stone”

“Although it repeated 1000 times, no way”

How many times you keep getting the same NOT want results, but you’re still using the same strategy?

And, the most curious case is that,

Despite not working, you’re still using the same strategy.

  • You return to “happen the same” once again.
  • You stumble back to “the same” stone
  • Or, you repeat 1001 times “the same” without getting anything.

Why do you insist?

Imagine how power would leave behind, quickly and without major complications, what it does not work us.

We could change direction once we have seen that we do not get the results we want.

That would be great

However, we do not.

Contents

    • 0.1 Reasons why we insist on “more of the same”
    • 0.2 Some example
    • 0.3 Haz algo diferente
    • 0.4 Block what does not work
  • 1 3 Foolproof Steps to learn to Say No and Earn People's respect

Reasons why we insist on “more of the same”

There may be several reasons:

  • You do not know what else to do
  • Because you think you have not done “enough” good
  • Because you think you have not placed too much emphasis
  • Because you think that to get it you have to repeat a number of times
  • Because you do not know to communicate what do you want
  • Because you block
  • Etc

Reasons there, no doubt about that.

But today, I want you to ask yourself this question:

strategy that does not work question

 

¿Why continue using a strategy that does not work, if you do not get what you want?

It is that when you’re wondering, the answer seems obvious and yet, still there.

Many times, we do not even realize the process.

I wish you’d stop a moment.

Looking for a situation in which “whenever you obtain the same results,” and are not to your liking.

Now, ask yourself this question:

What strategy is used to reach this situation? What do I do?

Because something you have to be doing!

Some example

– Always you end with the same type of man, that which is fun, but that does not give you what you want

The million-dollar question is: Why you repeat?

What do you want?

If you want a relationship, you can continue not dating men who do not want to commit.

I know it’s easy to say, but then … it costs so.

I know.

Another example,

Have a partner, friends, family, etc. by which you give everything, and he or she will not value, do not correspond or do not take into account.

But you, follow the same strategy that does not work.

Would you keep giving everything?

But you get nothing.

I ask the same question: Why do you insist?

Today I propose something different:

Change the strategy!

Haz algo diferente

deja de hacer siempre lo mismo

 “If you want different results, do not do the same”

(A.Einstein)

This is good advice.

What is your goal?

What do you want?

Once you have clear, trace different ways or strategies to reach it.

Move away from what you do not like.

Put limits.

Say “no”.

You choose.

It meets someone new.

Sign up for a course in something you like, even if you have to go alone.

Proof.

Experience.

Do what you have to do to get what you want.

But,

if you do not get what you want,

Stop using a strategy that does not work!

strategy that does not work help

If you can not think what else to do or how to act so as not to fall back into “business as usual” talking with other people, ask their opinion.

Look for information on cases similar to yours.

Think of someone you admire, and ask yourself:

What would this person if you were in my place?

The important thing is to stop insisting on more of the same.

And another thing:

Block what does not work

This is very important.

As mentioned in the above example:

If you want to value what you give them.

Stop giving it to people who do not value it.

Because if you keep giving it, all you get is to lower your self-esteem.

I see many mothers who love their children dearly and give them every whim, and yet they treat them badly.

People who are eager for your partner, staying them in the last place, for the couple to reward them with contempt.

People who are available for all your friends, but do not have anyone, when they need them.

This has to stop.

You can not afford it.

Because you get only harm you.

Blocks all those strategies that lead you to unwanted results.

 

In short, there are 3 things you can do:

1º – Stop: look, investigate… What actions, behaviors or attitudes have to lead to results you do not want ?.

2º – Block the strategy that does not work and stop it, lock it all, because it is the only way to get out of there.

3º – Choose to make something different: change your behavior, your answers, your actions, your attitudes … do different, but do not know if it will work, but try it.

As Confucius says,

“If you know what you have to do and you do not, then you’re worse than before”.

So get to work!

If you can do these 3 actions, you’ll see that in a short time, your life will begin to change.

For only you can make your life change in the direction you want.

I hope these words give you the push you need, motivation to take you to act and the necessary force to change strategy.

If you think these tips can help others, share the post on your social networks.

And if you want to share your “more of the same” do it freely in the comments, as your experience can help others.

3 Foolproof Steps to learn 
to Say No and Earn People's respect

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