I have many years doing workshops and courses on personal growth,
“Working” on my interior and, I think, from my experience, I can explain some of the benefits of personal growth, I have obtained.
But let me give you a little explanation of what, to me, means.
Personal Growth: be able to look inside yourself and understand:
- why you feel a certain way and not another
- why it affects things that other people don’t
- why we react to people or situations
- what paralyzes you
- Which are your fears
- which are your dreams or goals
- what makes you happy
- what makes you sad
- how to fight anger
- how to say no
- how to get yourself in the first place
- the importance of loving yourself
- how to learn to manage your emotions and yourself
- Etc, etc. etc…
Actually, there are many things you can get simply by asking, listening and taking action.
But back to the personal growth benefits:
1. Understanding what happens to you and know how to manage
I’ll ask a question.
When you feel sad, angry, nervous, restless, angry, anxious … do you usually ask you …?
“what’s happening to me?”
Think about it .
If you’ve never heard of personal growth, probably, you will drive them the guilt of your discomfort to any person or external situation, you will go to your home with the feeling that is, you pay with the people closest, and I go to bed thinking that “you’ve had a bad day.”
But these situations can be avoided if you know yourself, and know your reactions.
The typical example is when someone says something that bothers you.
At that time, you do not react, however, after 5 minutes, you start having stomachache, headache or a feeling of discomfort blurred.
Many times we are not even aware that “it” they told me, it bothered me, but even if the head does not find the heart, yes.
Further, the head is very aware and helps get weed …
“and why he had told me this”,
“as what does he think”,
“should he or she do, let’s see if it’s as easy as say!”,
blah, blah, blah…
The fact is that you have left that feeling of discomfort inside, and you begin to “feel” very bad.
Come home after work, you’ve already forgotten the incident of work, but something inside not just be well … sometimes, it’s like a volcano about to explode, others, as if a river was about to bolt …
Maybe gives you for mourn, for rant against someone or against the world, or by isolating yourself and not interact with anyone.
If, then, you had not asked
what’s happening to me?
one of the personal growth benefits is that:
- if you ask it at that time,
- you are able to identify your feeling,
- and know where it comes from,
understanding what has happened to you, relaxes you at the time.
And that is another personal growth benefit.
2. Live a more relaxed life
By knowing our feelings and reactions, it is easier to accept, and accept.
It is easier to accept the sadness or anger, when you understand its origin.
You are able to know what is happening inside you, at all times.
Or maybe not “the right time”, but later.
And that gives you peace of mind.
to oscillate between mountains and plains
3. Trust your resources and capabilities
When you know what happens to you, you accept your feelings and understand your reactions, arises in you the possibility to decide, what to do about .
If someone told you something that bothered you, you may be able to decide if it’s worth talking to that person, or not.
Or, maybe, the next time something happens to you, you will be better able to react at the time, because you will know to identify what happens to you.
Know you have resources to use in different situations, and you are able to make decisions increases confidence in yourself and also your self-esteem.
Stop being a weather vane, changing depending on the circumstances, and raisins to take control of your life.
I’m not saying that nothing affects you, it’s different.
I say that things affect you, but you have resources to manage them.
4. To change the perception
This is the best of the benefits of personal growth, from my point of view.
Many things affect us because we look at them under a certain prism or color.
If something bothers you, you sad, make you mad … and are able to accept and manage these feelings, then you will also be able to turn them over.
Occasionally it is good to ask ourselves if that affects us both, we could watch from another point of view.
In fact, one of the goals of therapy is to help people change their perception.
Because if we change the perception will change our feelings and reactions and, therefore, also our behavior.
5. Having a loving relationship with yourself
As a gift, in addition to all the above, improve the relationship with oneself, it is one of the benefits of personal growth, that is priceless.
Years ago, when I started my courses and my therapies I remember feeling very unsatisfied with me. Everything seemed wrong, had always thousand critical to me, and never quite feel satisfied.
I started going to a therapist who used the method of Louise Hay and helped me reconnect with my “inner child”.
The inner child is the most naive, spontaneous, childlike, sweet … all of us part.
Do you remember your innocence when you were a child?
If you do not remember, you only need to look or you relate to a child or small child.
For that innocence, naivety, that goodness … is still in you.
Although, depending on the type of relationship you have with yourself, you will be expressed more or less.
Once you connect with the most naive, it is easier to direct your thoughts toward good relationship.
Not the same to say: “that you did wrong!”
To say, “ nothing happens affection, this time, has not left us as we wanted, it is not so serious. It is only a matter of practice more”.
Do you see what a difference there may be in your internal dialogue?
you can go from self-criticism to self-motivation.
What do you think of these benefits?
For me, work with myself, he has been a before and after in my life.
So if you need an accompaniment to your personal growth process, do not hesitate to contact me. Well, I’ve been through all this, and I know the way.
Of course, I keep walking.
But I’m sure I can bring a little light or guide.