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How to think positive

What’s easier for you, to talk about positive things or complain about negative ones?

Achieve positive thinking isn’t easy!

Do you have a tendency to complain?

That’s pretty normal, right?

A few days ago I was on the train and I caught  “sabotaging” myself I’d experienced some positive events and yet, my mind was spinning trying to find something to complain about:

  • “Look you still lack something…
  • “Look you still don’t have this or that …

Luckily, I realized it and I stop!

Why should I follow my mind games?

Who should choose what to think?

So I make the decision to stop thinking about everything that “I still don’t have” and instead appreciate everything I am getting.

Contents

  • 1 In life, we will always be missing something
  • 2 “I try, but I can’t”
  • 3 Where are “YOU” when your mind is wandering in your complaints?
  • 4 The important thing is not the goal, but the route
  • 5 3 Foolproof Steps to learn to Say No and Earn People's respect

In life, we will always be missing something

Do you know someone who has got absolutely EVERYTHING he or she wants or would like to?

I don’t.

If we consider life as a school which we go to in order to learn, there will always be gaps which need to be changed or improved in order to learn the lessons we need to and grow human beings.

quejasThere will always be things to change or obstacles to overcome, but, why focus on them?

One may also ask: what for?

Can you answer this question for me and yourself?

Why spend the day complaining?

“I try, but I can’t”

-I hear you saying…

Don’t worry, because achieve positive thinking it’s not that easy.

What happens is that we are in the habit or tendency of looking for the negative, maybe because no one taught us otherwise, or because it’s what we have seen in our family, our environment and our society.

And the truth is that we’re so used to that way of thinking that we see it as the most normal thing in the world.

And it is NOT.

But a mind that is used to complain and focusing on the negative will produce negative thoughts. And these, in turn, led us discomfort.

In his book Stop being you  Joe Dispensa, explains that there comes a time when, after so many years of thinking negatively, the body takes over it and it becomes an automatic habit.

It’s the same thing when you are driving, you don’t need any effort to do it, it just flows without the need to think about it.

It’s the same thing here, it arises due to our whole repertoire of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, and complaints, caused by our own minds.

So, positive thinking can be more difficult than it seems. You have to unlearn to drive and learn to lead yourself in a different way.

But anything is possible, of course. So I’ll ask you another question:

Where are “YOU” when your mind is wandering in your complaints?

Usually, we go through our days in inertia. We have so many things to do, that we forget to be present.

But by not stopping, the mind continues what it’s been doing its whole life… complaining, thinking negatively, looking for what’s missing…

So, you do need to stop, at least for a moment, take a deep breath and put yourself in the position of the observer.

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The observer of your mind.

To not allow the mind to continue with its routine and take control.

So you have to tell your mind: don’t think about what you need, think instead about what you have achieved, however small it might be.

Direct your mind into whatever you DO have even if it’s small and enjoy it.

Be thankful for that little step, that little situation, that little gift that, at its core, is worth so much.

The important thing is not the goal, but the route

Imagine that tomorrow when you wake up, a miracle occurs, and suddenly, you have everything you have always wanted.

Imagine that you have achieved all your goals and objectives.

Then what?

Can you imagine a life without goals, without dreams and without anything else to learn?

It would be very boring, right?

Therefore, it’s important to enjoy the way that leads to the right path towards what you really want but, without clinging too much into getting it.

Who knows if, during the process of looking, for one thing, you will find another that you’d like so much more, or that would give you exactly what you want.

So, focus on those small things that make you feel good, those small achievements that get every day, and keep your mind at bay. That way, you’ll enjoy your path.

In order to achieve positive thinking, you have to put yourself in the role of the observer of your mind and choose the kind of thoughts you want to have.

I know it’s difficult to achieve positive thinking, I know it’s hard, but that’s the path. So you must start traveling it, even by taking baby steps.

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