For how much long do you have to “suffer” or how bad do you need to feel to look for psychological aid?
Since I was 19 years old I’ve gotten help from professionals who aided me in overcoming several things, and turning into the person that I am today.
Looking backwards, I can see how much I have grown as a person, and how they helped me find my way, when I felt lost.
With this article I’d like to change the way in which you see psychological help, and for you to notice that you can resort to it when you need it without coming up with a thousand excuses, that keep you stranded and don’t let you advance.
Why don’t you seek psychological aid?
You can come up with lost reasons or excuses.
Here are some examples:
1. ” It’s too expensive “
I believe that the perception of the concepts expensive and cheap is a bit distorted.
People can spend 500.-€ in a phone and yet investing 50.-€ in therapy or personal growth seems expensive.
But answer the following question:
What’s more important for you, having a super mobile or feeling good?
Why is it so difficult for you to invest money in yourself?
Why is your emotional well-being the last thing in your mind?
If you want to be muscly or fit, you need to work out, right?
And often, you pay for a gym membership you don’t even use.
Why can’t you pay for a psychologist or coach who will accompany you throughout a delicate moment in your life?
Why do you need to go through it alone?
It’s time to change your priorities.
You are the most important thing in your life.
Emotional stability isn’t a luxury, it’s a need.
2. ” I can do it alone ” or ” I’m not doing that bad “
Both expressions are devaluing your needs.
We all need help occasionally, and there’s nothing wrong with asking for it, nor with accepting it.
Psychotherapy isn’t only for people with mental disorder, there are lots of moments in life when psychological support can really help you much.
There’s no need for you to do everything by yourself. You don’t have to be a superhero.
You need to stop, rest, revise your strategies and decide whether to follow them or change them.
If you find external help, it’ll be easier for you to review and modify your path, if necessary.
Don’t deprive yourself of this help, just because you think ” you need to overcome your problems alone “.
What if I said the following thing?
If you work alone, it could take you 1 year to get over the situation you’re going through (that is if you do).
But, if you seek help, you could overcome it in about 2 months.
Would you then seek psychological aid?
If you look at it from this perspective … you’d overcome it.
Save yourself 10 months of suffering and of discomfort.
Stop tricking yourself.
3. I don’t have time
Still there are still people who confuse the psychological with the psychoanalitical method in which the process of discovering yourself can take a long time.
I’m not saying it doesn’t take work.
But, nowadays there are shorter therapies that focus specifically on solutions such as the Brief Strategic Therapy.
This means that, depending on what you’re stuck in or what you want to achieve, you can do it in a short period of time.
I know cases in which they have solved their problems in just 3 sessions. This could be your case.
I offer a maximum of 10 sessions to see changes, because if after 10 therapy sessions nothing has changed (while following the psychologist’s indications), you’ll need:
- To change therapy
- To change therapist
Clearly, everything will depend on the case, and some need more or less time.
Consider it as an investment in yourself.
4. I’m NOT interested
Do you know what will happen to you if you start growing up and developing as person?
- You’ll separate from what most do.
- You’ll become an autonomous and independent person.
- You’ll start having your own opinion.
- You’ll be able to manage your emotions and you won’t be controlled by them nor by anybody else anymore.
You’ll assume responsibility for your life and WILL CHOOSE what you want for YOURSELF.
We live in a consumerist society that e has no interest for our autonomy, but we still believe everything they say, so we can continue searching for happiness in their products.
It’s better for them that we continue sleeping and going through life without knowing too much, because that way, we’re easier to manipulate.
When to seek psychological aid?
There are no right answers for this question, because each person has to answer it on their own, nevertheless, there are times when you may need help and not see it.
We all go through difficult moments, but if even when you’re undergoing this, you can go back to feeling calm and satisfied, it means you can manage and act on what happens to you.
Nonetheless, if you can’t, the following can be warnings about needing to seek aid:
- When your feeling of sadness or discomfort persists
- When you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, and any internal or external event destabilizes you
- If 6 months or 1 year after some traumatic event, you continue suffering for what happened.
- If there’s an area of your life that you’d like to improve in
- If you have a high level of self-criticism or auto-demands
- If the fear or anxiety paralyse you
- If the loneliness terrifies you
- If you constantly get involved with people who don’t respect you
- If find it difficult to enjoy your sexuality
- If you want to know yourself more
- If you want to improve the relationship with your partner
In general, when you feel paralysed or want a change in some aspect of your life.
So don’t think about it anymore.
If you need it, grant it to yourself.
And if you’re still not clear on it, contact with me at firstname.lastname@example.org, and take advantage of this first, completely free meeting.