Have you ever had an anxiety attack?
Or have you felt so scared that has blocked you without knowing what to do?
Do you know how to manage anxiety?
Have you been told that anxiety is a consequence?
Usually, under anxiety, there is fear.
Do not forget that fear is natural.
In the past, fear has helped humans survive because it warned of dangerous situations and allowed him to cope, or escape.
However, still and having spent time at which there are no longer many dangers as before, it seems to have more fear than ever.
We are afraid to go out and not come out, to take risks, to approach a person we would like to know, to fail, to make mistakes, to fall down, to feel a certain way, we happen again “the same“…
And, when fear becomes too great, you can reach invalidate yourself, in some aspects of your life.
Imagine a situation that scares you.
Sometimes, just thinking about it, you can start to feel you up anxiety.
Solutions that do NOT work
Let me clarify that using solutions occasionally, isn’t nothing wrong. In principle, all we use.
The problem comes when repeated systematically and becomes rigid. So you can not do anything else.
¿Qué es lo que “sueles” hacer para controlar la ansiedad?
If something scares you, you decide not to.
In this way you stop being afraid, and anxiety disappears, THAT MOMENT.
But after a time, with each avoidance:
- you become more fearful
- your confidence starts to decline
- increases your sense of inadequacy and,
- decline your self-esteem
For you become a person unable to face your fears and, therefore, your general anxiety level increases.
2. Ask for help
When we asked for help from a person, somehow we are saying, “Help me, because I alone can not.”
The person with all his “good” intentions, and the best of their feelings, help us, and will be accompanied by us, whatever it takes.
In this event there are two messages:
- I help you because I love you (explicit message)
- I help you because you can not (subtle or implicit message)
With this attempt at a solution, we help our inability to grow and we become even more unsafe.
We avoid the anxiety of having to do something alone but in the long run, this solution only makes the anxiety is installed on you.
3. Talk a lot
In general, when something happened to us or we have experienced some experience in which we have been afraid, being able to express your feelings can help you take the stress out of your body.
if you spend the day talking about the same topic with everyone, instead of helping, you’re getting yourself into a deeper and deeper hole, which then will cost you out.
Because you focus in the negative, your fears, your anxiety, etc.
Fear is like a plant, if you water your words, grows.
And that prevents you can see beyond your fear.
The more you talk, the more fear and more fear, more anxiety as a result.
I imagine now have clear what does not work. But I try to offer a few more suggestions that might help you:
1 – Block the attempted solutions that do not work
Avoid these three attempted solutions which, as I hope you were able to understand not help you, but make your anxiety is maintained or even grow.
2 – Accept fear
Acceptance is always the key to overcoming step.
It’s okay to be afraid.
Yes, you are afraid, so what?
In this case, it would be important to know do you produce fear, because depending on your particular fear, there may be some specific strategies that can help each other.
3 – Try to distract your mind
This strategy is very effective especially at the time when anxiety begins to grow.
Although it is a bit difficult to distract one’s mind, you can find an “alternative” that you provide.
- focus your attention on the body
- focus on breathing
- display an image
- start writing about what is happening to you.
When the blow of anxiety happens, you have to continue with what you were doing. Remember the importance of NO avoid.
4 – Deal with the situation
You have no other.
If the situation is very paralyzing for you, you can always assumable divide it into small steps, if that were possible.
Grab your arm fear, and do what you have to do.
5 – Understanding and accepting that anxiety, will be the last to leave
Sometimes we think that because we have accepted fear or have even faced the situation, and we will not feel anxiety.
No, that does not work well.
Manage anxiety has to do with what I have explained above, but also with an acceptance that, whatever you what causes it, is not going to go easily.
This acceptance will give you the strength you need to understand that, yet and anxiety, you have to go to the front.
You can not stand.
You can not let anxiety paralyze you.
So, if you know you will go with you for a while, you will not fight it, and focus your intention to face your fear and overcome it.
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