Do you always feel that “something” will go wrong?
It’s clear that in life there are all kind of situations:
- some happier and other sadder
- some easier and others more stressful
- somewhere everything flows and others where it looked like everything goes wrong.
And this is part of life.
Life flows and different things happen, which will cause different emotions in the future, and different levels of fluidity or difficulty.
But in this post I’ll talk about always feeling that “something” is going to go wrong. Which predispose you to “expect negative things.”
Have you ever been told that “NOT to think that things are going to go well, because then if something goes wrong, you are expecting it and it won’t be a surprise.
To protect you against unexpected bad things, you’re predisposing to get something bad.
So I ask:
- What does it happen when you keep thinking that bad things will happen?
- Where is your mind fixed?
Of course, in any small negative thing.
And this will make you feel worried and anxious.
What are negative prophecies?
A negative prophecy is a thought that something bad or negative will happen.
- I won’t find a job
- Even though I sent my curriculum they won’t reply
- You can’t trust anyone
- I’ll never overcome my problem
- I’ll never get what I want
- Something will happen and I won’t arrive on time
- My boss will scold me
- I won’t receive that call
- He won’t remember my birthday
There are so many things that can go wrong, that the list could be endless.
But you know what?
Things going well carries the same probability.
How do you turn negative prophecies into reality?
Imagine that you’re expecting a call, from your friend, from your partner or a from possible job and that call doesn’t happen.
At least it doesn’t happen TODAY.
But instead of thinking about the fact that you didn’t get a call TODAY, your mind generalizes and believes that IT WON’T HAPPEN EVER.
Generalizations are mental process in which based on a particular case, conclusions are generalized to all similar cases.
For example, if you want something and you try it 5 times and don’t get it, you give up.
To justify surrendering you say “I won’t get it.”
But tell me, how many times does a child need to fall before he learns how to walk? How many?
Do you think the child thinks: “I won’t get it“?
I don’t think so.
But as an adult you create negative prophecies and believe them, generalizing them to other aspects of your life, and then you’re taken aback because things go wrong.
You create a reality that stems from a belief that says “things can’t go well, there’s always something that can go wrong“.
And you accept a generalization as an absolute truth.
Do you know why this belief is so common among people?
Because it’s partially right.
As you know, in life you’ll go through different ages. In some of them, things will flow, but in others, you might have to overcome more obstacles, but that’s part of life.
However, if you generalize negatively, you’ll create what your prophecy says in your reality.
But let me tell you that things can also go well.
And although there will be some difficulties you can look at them as part of our path, and not as pebbles interrupting your way.
I propose an experiment to be done for one week
Every morning, make a list of negative prophecies that you think will happen that day (every day you need to make a new list).
And let the day go by as usual.
Don’t think too much about your list, leave it under your pillow.
At night, before bedtime, check your list.
Go over it line by line and check what you wrote, did the negative thing you thought would happen, actually happen?
If they did, write next to what you wrote “Yes” and if it hasn’t, write “No”.
Verify any exceptions: were any of the negative prophecies NOT fulfilled?
In this case, what happened?
And try to find an explanation.
If you found an explanation for why the negative prophecies didn’t happen, I invite you to comment on the section below.