Being a sensitive person has its positive side and its a little less positive side.
The biggest problem that you can find if you are a very sensitive person is to interact with people who AREN’T it at all.
Because people who aren’t sensitive, can’t understand the intensity you can experience with any emotion or feeling.
Of course, this sensitivity serves for both the “good things” to the “bad things”.
When you feel pain, the pain is very strong, but when you feel love, is super intense.
The sensitivity allows you to reach the ends of both poles.
What does it mean to be too sensitive?
If you’re a very sensitive person, you’ll have a series of determining personality traits, such as:
a) you can guess what kind of person there’s in front of you
The sensitivity is closely related to intuition, so you are able to “feel” and perceive subtle things of others.
- if you can trust him or not
- if he has good intentions
- if he is good-natured or not
This helps you to select better your relationships.
b) you have the ability to empathize with the other, immediately.
Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another’s place.
If you’re a sensitive person, that’s very easy for you.
This empathy lets you connect with people on an emotional level and make them feel good being with you.
c) you can feel the positive emotions to the maximum
Feeling intense is useful for all emotions.
Love, joy, excitement, happiness, positivity, delivery… You don’t feel it a little bit, you feel it to the top.
And the same happens with so-called negative emotions such as anger, fear, frustration, disappointment, etc.
d) you are able to appreciate the simple things
Your sensitivity allows you to appreciate:
- the beauty of a sunset
- the meeting with a friend
- the soothing effect of a bath
little things that, you feel so much, that let you enjoy more your day-to-day.
What to do when a person is very sensitive?
From experience I can tell you that if you are a sensitive person, you’ve to take care of certain aspects of yourself to avoid suffering.
Because you can’t go through life with your heart exposed, because “out there” there are people who don’t understand the sensitivity.
I propose you some things you can keep in mind:
1. Increase your level of protection when you fall in love
When the infatuation blinds your eyes, you stop paying attention to your intuition.
Your sensitivity warns you about things, but your infatuation impedes you to really look at them.
You idealize the loved one and your heart starts to feel great love.
The limits fall and if you are with a person that is able to understand your sensitivity, then, no problem.
The problem arises when, your partner or the other person doesn’t understand your sensitivity.
And when you show it, the other uses it against you, accusing you of being a crybaby, sensitive, hysterical or exaggerated.
Sensitivity isn’t bad nor makes you a worse person, quite the opposite.
It lets you empathize and understand the other in-depth.
And you have to be clear about this to stop the criticisms of that aspect of your personality.
Protect yourself when someone accuses you of being sensitive, because maybe you’re in front of one of those people, who don’t know what it means.
And have an extra radar when you fall in love, as it’s a delicate moment and you need to pay attention to your heart.
2. Set limits
It’s probably that, if you’re a sensitive person, you have a huge and kind heart.
This means that you are a good person and always look for the good for others.
But remember that NOT everyone is like you.
I know you don’t want to hurt anyone.
I know you have much ability to put yourself in the other’s place, especially when they suffer.
But, if the other is hurting you with his comments or his actions, you have to stop it.
If you haven’t done so, you can download my Free Guide of 3 infallible Steps to learn how to say no and make yourself be respected which you’ll find on the home page.
You can’t allow that, because the other “is sad”:
- mistreats you
- lies you
- disrespects you
- insults you…
and besides that he tells you that is your problem because you’re too sensitive.
No, no, none of that.
There’s no possible justification before such behavior.
Don’t forget it.
You have to put a limit and if you can’t, you leave him, but quickly.
Because if you don’t, you’re going to destroy that little heart you have that feel so much.
And if you feel you cant do it alone, here’s some help.
3. Accept your sensitivity
For a long time I tried to give an image that didn’t correspond to me.
Above all, it was to avoid that people hurt me, because I’m a very sensitive person too.
I tried to “imitate” (because it didn’t arise of my own initiative) behaviors of people with a less degree of sensitivity than mine.
And all I got was hurting myself.
Because you can’t go against your own nature.
For example, there are things I can’t see, because they affect me too much.
There are even issues that I prefer not to speak about, because it’s too painful for me.
My empathy and my sensibility, make me feel things very intensely.
And that’s part of my way of being.
Therefore, if you know what hurts you or the things that affect you much, avoid them always you can!
- What need have you to expose yourself to suffering and pain?
- For what?
It’s not necessary.
If you accept and respect your limits, you’ll teach the rest to accept you and respect you.
4. Look for people like you
The best way to live with your sensitivity is to look for sensitive people like you that, at least, understand that aspect of your personality.
The important thing is that, as you accept your sensitivity, your close people have to know you’re sensitive and that that way of feeling the things is part of you.
Then, in any situation of discussion and different viewpoints, the other won’t attack that aspect of you, but he’ll keep it in mind.
The sensitivity is a gift, so take care of it and give it the value it deserves.
Are you a sensitive person? Why don’t you explain to me about your experience?
You can do it by the blog’s comments.