Have you ever felt that feeling that shatters your heart?
To mend your broken heart is not easy, because when the heart breaks (figuratively speaking), although the wound is healed, the scar will remain.
In this post I would like to walk you through the process of recomposing your heart, and make your wound stops bleeding..
- 1 Why can a heart break?
- 2 The dangers of a broken heart
- 3 6 ways to mend your broken heart
- 4 3 Foolproof Steps to learn to Say No and Earn People's respect
Why can a heart break?
Because as always, each person is different, and some people can really affect us, while others have less of an effect.
In general, we can say that the heart is “broken”:
- when you love and you are unrequited
- when you give love to someone and you receive indifference
- when you are constantly judged
- when you give everything and a person betrays you
- when people who are important to you, don’t take you into account
- when you feel alone and helpless
The dangers of a broken heart
Understand that the first few days, you can’t do much about it.
It’s okay, it’s good to allow yourself to feel what you feel.
But you can’t allow yourself to be paralyse by pain.
Because that would destroy you.
It may also happen that, you get thoughts of hatred and revenge, directed toward the person you used to love or with whom you were fighting.
And with this emotional state, you can do silly things, which you’ll regret.
And harm your heart even further.
To avoid this, here I present some suggestions.
6 ways to mend your broken heart
1. Give yourself time to “rest”
If you fall and you get wounded or you break something, you need time of rest, to avoid harming the injured area any further.
When your heart is broken, you also need to rest.
You need to keep your heart quiet and calm during this time of intense emotions.
It’s like if you took your heart to a monastery to help it relax.
So, right now, it is forbidden to be carried away by your impulses.
Because your heart is weak and has to cure.
2. Learn the lesson
In life everything happens to us to learn something.
What did you learn from this that led you to break your heart?
Does your wellness depend entirely on you or on someone else?
Did you deceive yourself?
Did you not set limits you knew?
Did you get lost on the other person and forgot about yourself?
It is imperative that you learn what the situation or the person had to teach you.
Because if you don’t, the same thing will happen again, again and again, until you learn the lesson.
3. Protect your heart
If you broke your leg, would you run a marathon?
If you have a wound, wouldn’t you check that it doesn’t get infected?
Would you allow a young child to run alone near a cliff?
In all these cases, you’re protecting your leg, your wound or the child.
Think about the same, but about your heart.
You have to protect your heart and you have to protect yourself.
If you ever give your heart to a person and it breaks, don’t do the same.
That is, don’t go to the same person, with your heart in your hands, hoping that “this time” it won’t break.
If broken, you have to take care of it and you can’t go around exposing it.
Keep your heart in your house, protect it and keep it rested.
But don’t think this is easy.
The heart, even hurt, always wants to love.
And it’s okay, let it!
That is its function.
But sometimes it can get in trouble, and they don’t know how to get out.
So be more adult and mature, teach your heart to know when to surrender and when to retire, if you don’t want to damaged it...
4. Give your heart the love it needs
To mend your broken heart, you’ll first have to love it very much.
The love you have for yourself has to be so great that your heart won’t need to look for it elsewhere.
And for that, you need to learn how to love yourself.
Loving your heart or loving yourself, has to do with:
- be patient
And above all, forgive your heart.
Because the heart just wants to love and be loved.
But sometimes, it looks for that love in the wrong place.
Perhaps because no one showed it where to look.
5. Teach your heart the dangers to be avoided
When a child begins to walk, you have to chase him all the time, so he:
- won’t fall
- won’t put his fingers in a plug
- won’t bump into any table edges
Finally, you have to teach him to avoid all dangers.
And you have to do the same when your heart is broken.
You have to teach it to identify dangerous situations that can lead it to break again.
But so you can learn, your heart needs to be quiet.
Because if it’s in the pain, you probably won’t learn anything.
Do you remember the lesson learned?
Well you have to keep it in mind at all times.
In order to avoid getting hurt again.
It has to re-socialize and to love again, but with the assurance that you are there behind it, guiding it.
And it will have to experience, without straying too far from you.
Especially at first.
Until your heart feels strong enough to embark on a major project.
6. Keep your heart focused on you
When the heart is constantly looking out, waiting on others, depending on the outside, sooner or later, the outside will let you down.
Because we are all human.
But if you get your heart to depend on you, what you like, what makes you feel happy, calm, then seeking it outside becomes less prevalent.
And your heart stops depending on the outside and becomes dependent on you.
Of course, you have to be your best version of you.
But that is the best gift you can give yourself.
As you can see, it is possible to mend your broken heart, but keep in mind that this requires time.
A broken heart does not heal within two days.
So aim for a lot of patience and lots of cuddling.
Surely there are other ways that can also help mend your broken heart, what has helped you? Leave us your experience in the comments, they’ll surely help others.