Have you found yourself thinking something like…?
“With everything I do for you”, for him, for her, for all of you… and you don’t value me!”
And I’ll tell you something else, every time you see something outside of yourself, in this case, a lack of appreciation, that bothers you, deep down, you aren’t talking about others, but about yourself.
It’d be nice to change the question to:
Why don’t I value MYSELF?
Everything we see in others that bothers us, refers to ourselves.
If it doesn’t bother or hurt you, then, it might not have to do with you, but if it does bother you that others don’t value you, then… that has to do with you.
Because if you DON’T value yourself,
How do you think you’re going to act? How will you behave before others?
Here’s a metaphor, to explain this simply:
Let’s imagine that you live in a small, simple house, without too much furniture, but, it’s yours, you like it, you feel good and safe in it.
You really value your house and, yet, every time you very much and, however, every day go
to work, shopping or anywhere, you forget to close the door.
A neighbor passes by, sees the door open, goes in, takes something and leaves, it was free.
A friend who was walking nearby sees the door open, so she goes in, moves some stuff a
bit, and leaves.
Later, an interesting man passes by, who doesn't even bother to enter because he’s in a hurry, but as he always passes by and sees the door open, he thinks “maybe I’ll come back some other day, as the door is always open.”
And you don’t understand why you aren’t valued, and yet, you’re the one who keeps forgetting to close the door!
It’s as if you were telling others, “my home is always open for you” and you think that with that 24-hour availability, by giving everything, offering everything… others will be amazed by
your generosity and recognize and value your effort, but…
Why is the opposite happening?
You may be using the wrong strategy.
If by leaving the door open and giving and doing everything right, you aren’t valued, if not even you are valuing yourself, you may need to close the door and start giving: less and worse.
And this is the activity that I propose for today:
Close the door of your house and only open it when the person who comes to see you is really interested in you and values both your home and your time and dedication.
For those who don’t value it, close the door at once!
And stop hurting yourself.
Because only you can give yourself the value you deserve and you don’t give valuable things to just anyone, right?
Well, start treating yourself as the most valuable thing in your life,
And every time you leave the house,
Remember to close the door!